As you know, my Sister, Paula, passed last November. The day after that, my Dad and I went to the nursing home to collect her things. For some reason, I took her wheelchair home with me. I spent the better part of last year trying to declutter my house and here I was adding to it. So there it sat in my garage for months. I saw it every single day and I think it wore on me.
Between now and then, I've written tons of posts and I've tried to keep them upbeat. And regardless of how funny I thought my posts were or how many (!!!!!!) I added at the end of each sentence, someone always commented something like, "I can tell that you're still sad". Sorry for assuming that you all just skimmed though my posts. I guess I can't fool you.
Yeah, dealing with our lives in general and then being reminded of her absence on a daily basis every time I hit the garage was playing head games with me. Therefore, that baby had to go! I posted it on Craigslist for sale. No takers. Then, I made it Free to anyone who could prove that they actually needed it. And I was going to be a total prick about it too. If I didn't see someone dragging their ass down my driveway, they weren't getting it. Still, no takers. So I called my Sister's nursing home and they were more than happy to have it donated to them.
Seriously, it felt so good to find a new home for that chair and especially to a place that I knew could use it.
I suppose that there will always be a general sadness about me. But I'm so tired of thinking about the Dead. The Living keep me busy enough.
Your "old" Friend, m.
149 comments:
Closure is good. I hope you do find some. I also hope you had/have a Happy Birthday! I ate 2 cupcakes yesterday, in honor of your special day! Granted, I didn't know at the time it was your Birthday, but I am happy to now blame my pigging out on you. I like to blame things on you.
Happy birthday!!! I'm sure that you are sad. I mean, that's a huge loss to you. I can see how the constant reminder would be hard. Also, something that she used to sit in that is now empty is harder to look at than a photo. It would be more depressing to see it empty. I'm glad you were able to find a good home for it.
Happy Birthday "old" friend! That was kind of you to donate the chair. I'm sure your sister is smiling down on you.
It will get easier with time, I suppose. I'm not saying I know how you're feeling, because I don't. But I know that those four wee faces will keep you going and keep you young. Hang in there and don't be afraid to lean on someone.
Oh Mark, I can only imagine how hard it must be to loose a sibling and I am so so sorry you had to go through this heartbreak. I know it is a cliche, but time (and love) does heal all wounds and I hope being surrounded by so much love at your house is helping you heal. It's wonderful that you were able to donate your sisters wheelchair to the nursing home, I'm sure they were glad to receive it.
I love the picture of you and the kiddos, and you are not old! Those are just numbers, so don't let them dictate your life...
Hope you had a wonderful Birthday!!
Mark, having done hospice and grief support for many, many years, I have learned that we never get over grief of the loss of a loved one, we just learn to cope with it. Give yourself some time and you have done a noble and correct thing in donating the chair. It's another day today, Marie
Oh Mark...my younger brother was killed in a car accident 16 years ago and I still think about him all the time. I still go to pick up the phone to call him and tell him about something that happened. But it does get better - I don't cry every time I think about him now. I still feel sad sometimes but it IS better.
You did a good thing by donating the wheelchair and I'm sure your sister is proud of you. Hang in there, my friend!
Wait!! It's your birthday??
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Hell, now you've made me laugh and cry in the same post! My husband will think I'm schizophrenic (I had to google how to spell that BTW). I'm just picturing how you would word the ad on Craigslist stating that you wanted them to prove that they really needed a wheelchair. Would a note from their doctor have sufficed or would you have made them attempt to stand up only to have them fall onto your driveway?
Hope you had a wonderful Birthday. I had no idea you were that age (not saying if I thought you were younger or older though).
Happy birthday my fellow Taurus! Mine is in two days. No wonder we are sympatico!
I'm glad you donated the chair, and that is an amazing picture of you and your kids. Check out my blog. I'm not even asking permission, either! With love.
Great picture- Happy Birthday if I missed it. Glad you found a home for the wheelchair- if you need a project, my house needs some decluttering. :)
but seriously, if you feel that posting your photo on my blog is not cool, let me know and i will take it down.
it's just the most beautiful photograph of you all.
Praying for you as you continue to heal from the loss.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! LOVE that photo of you and the kids. Tell Fred to set the auto timer and get in that photo with you next time! :)
(and I'm glad the nursing home could use your sister's chair!)
(Now go and enjoy that cake! You walk 4 miles everyday. It iwll burn off in no time!!)
Yes, far better to think of someone else using it. They are SO expensive and so will be a welcome relief for someone to have this.
The sadness will take time to deal with. She was young and it's very sad that she had this awful disease. God bless her.
Yipee!!! You in FRONT of the camera... awesome picture!
I'm sure it will get donated to someone who really is in need... & doesnt have to drag themselves up your driveway to show you... (I totally laughed till I was crying about that visual)
That's a beautiful picture of you and your kids.
I think that sometimes we experience loss that just stays with us forever. It's always somewhere. My grandmother lost her oldest child when he was three. He drowned. And even though she was the most amazing woman, there was always this saddness about her. She was a saint, an angel, always smiling, always happy, always with a kind word. But in those moments when she thought no one was looking...there was saddness. The thing I remember most about her was the sparkle in her eyes and her wide smile. So wide I could see the fillings in the back of her teeth.
But behind all that, was this heaviness. Your sister's always going to be with you and you're always going to carry the weight of her love. It's part of who you are.
Lots of love friend.
Oh and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
Mark, like to share this quote with you by an unknown author~~~~~~~~
"A bend in the road is not the end of the road...unless you fail to make a turn."
You have done this by donating your sister's wheelchair to someone that can really use it. You will always have the wonderful memories of your sister, and donating the wheelchair has given you the peace you need. Take care and Happy Birthday.!
Your life does change forever when you lose someone you love, but you can learn to continue to engage with the present life, even though your loved one will always be with you. I know. I think donating the wheelchair was a very good thing to do and I am sure your sister would be happy about it.
Is this your birthday?
Loss is hard. It never goes away... just becomes bearable once we accept it. The moments of sadness here and there are only normal, but to be honest, I never read sadness in your words. SO glad someone could use the chair and that it's no longer in your garage. Would be much nicer to see one of the kids' bicycles sitting in that space instead. :-)
The only thing I kept when my mom passed last June was a pair of earrings. I didn't keep them to remind me of her, but just because I liked them. Things are not people, and I don't things to "remind me" of someone I could never forget in the first place. I think your sister's wheelchair is in a better home, and that you will be in a better place, too, without it.
By the way, Happy Birthday! at first I thought they were candles for each of the twins, then remembered they are already well past age 4. :)
I did the same thing with my mom's glasses. For some reason Dad's faith wouldn't let her be buried with them (she ALWAYS had them on) and I couldn't throw them away. Finally after several years of them being in a cabinet, inside their case, staring at me, haunting me, I donated them to one of those missions that will give them to some person in a third world country that needed them. Made me happy knowing that and knowing that they were being put to good use instead of sitting in a kitchen cabinet doing nothing but taking up valuable space.
Glad it only took you less then a year to realize what it took me years.....
Happy birthday Mark!
I'm so proud of you for taking this step. It's hard but important to move on. I am just now 5+ years after my Dad's passing I am able to look at some things of his and be OK with it. Many hugs, Linda
Donating your sister's wheelchair was a wonderful gesture and I'm sure that someone else is thanking you for being their blessing that day. You are teaching your children a valuable lesson by sharing and probably staying true to your sister's memory (since I didnt know her, I wouldn't presume to know. But since she was so well loved, I would hazard a guess that she was an awesome person).
And once again, I love this picture. If only Fred was in it, it would be perfect.
And BTW...Happy Birthday Gorgeous!
Beautiful!
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Good for you. Hanging on to physical things does not help us remember how much we loved someone or all the great times spent together and I think the chair might have only been a reminder of her disease - which was not who she was. So two good things came of the donation - you helped someone who needs a chair and you helped yourself let go of some of the pain that you have carried with you since she passed. Memories need to be of the happy variety so have a Happy Birthday and may only happy times be ahead!
Mark, Happy Birthday old man! As I have said before... you are older and wiser than me.It sounds like you gave yourself a wonderful gift by donating your sister's wheelchair. I've been down this road many times with family members. I know one thing, there are no wise words for the hurting. All I can say is to take it at your own pace and cherish the memories your carry in your heart. I leave you with a gift of sorts. These lines have comforted me many times over the years. Take Care, BrandonMy old friend Grief is back. He comes
to visit me once in a while just to remind me that I am still broken.
...And so my friend Grief drops in to say hello. Sometimes he enters
through the door of my memory.
Sometimes my friend Grief sneaks up on me, and I'll feel unexplained and
profound sadness that clings to me.
My old friend Grief doesn't get in the way of my living. He just wants
to come along and chat.
My old friend Grief may leave me for a while, but he'll be back again to
remind me to confront my new reality and to gain through this loss.
My father always says, "take care of the living, the dead are already over it."
Ah, yesterday was your birthday. I think you share it with my daughter Alice who was 37 yesterday.
1968 was a very good year. Hugs my dear friend. Sounds like her chair found a very good home. Also, that picture of you and yours...pretty damn perfect. xo
Hugs. Big warm hugs.
Hi Mark,
this is a beautiful post, thank you for sharing this.
All the best and enjoy those gorgeous kiddo's of yours.
Maureen xx
Ah Mark, how could you not think about her every day? It's what we, the living, do.
Here's the thing. You have an AMAZING eye for photography. You don't need that chair sitting in your garage...you have beautiful photos of it that will surpass the test of time. And yes, the living are so much more fun to spend our time on....but those who are no longer here live within and have helped form who we are. You're entitled to be sad. And pissed as hell.
Happy birthday to you, Mark. And a loss is not something that one wants to forget or get over. Just learn to live with in a positive manner. And you do it quite well! I am sure your sister is happy that you're finally giving away her stuff! (And to such a good place.) After all, she wants the best for you, and a cluttered garage just wouldn't cut it.
Ohhh! I'm so glad you found someone who will get use out of the chair and carry on her memory at the same time.
love you.
Happy birthday to you, sir.
I held onto my grandma's comforter for YEARS after she passed. Although I never used it. My mom and aunts bought it for her when she moved to the nursing home, so it wasn't even familiar to me as a childhood memory. It was just hers. But it was painful to have it sit there all the time, so I eventually donated it too.
And somehow, I feel closer to her than I did with that blanket hanging over my life.
And shut UP with how good-looking your family is.
From my experience having lost my own sister, I know what you mean. The day after my sister died, I sat in her living room mindlessly paging through one of her books and strangely hit on a poem called "Lament." It was shockingly (eerily) appropriate: "But we, how shall we turn to little things and listen to the birds and winds and streams made holy by their dreams, nor feel the heart-break in the heart of things." It summed it up for me. But to end on a more positive note, as time passed I realized I didn't ALWAYS feel that heartbreak in the heart of things. I'm confident you won't always feel it either. It comes and goes (even 31 years later), but I'm also a lot more grateful for the joys in the heart of things.
nice post, "old" friend!
I've always been touched by the simple wisdom of the Serenity Prayer when dealing with loss and grief:
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can;and wisdom to know the difference.
I didn't know of your loss. I'm so sorry. But it sounds like you have grieved and donating the wheelchair was a wonderful thing to do. (((hugs)))
I so would have taken the wheelchair. I've been looking into buying one. But I'm glad that you donated it to the rest home. You are a great guy.
So when you get fatter, are you gonna blame that on me too? That's not right!
m.
Easy for you to say, you're only 29!
Thanks Anke!
m.
Yes, having worked for Hospice, I guess you would know.
When my Gran was passing, the Hospice folks were Angels. I remember calling them at 1:30a.m. and they were so pleasant and helpful. So thank you!
mark
I don't think I knew that you lost a brother. So yes, you do know how I feel and I believe you when you say that it does get better.
Thank you!
mark
Yes, it's my birthday. You'll still love me even if I'm old, right? m.
Listen, before my Sister went into a nursing home, I would drive her around everywhere. It would piss me off, to no end, when perfectly "healthy" looking people would hog up the Handicap parking spaces and I would struggle with her and her chair to get her into a store. Harrisburg is the land of handicap parking signs and lazy-ass people. No, I don't need to see a sign from a doctor but I want to see real proof of Need. Does that make sense?
m.
Thanks again for that posting today.
I would so love to visit you one day but our lives never let up. As it is, and I'll blog about this later, we are in the middle of buying a new house. Also, we are being interview by the PBS series, In The Life, on May 11th. It's going to get crazier before it gets better.
But one day!
Your Friend, mark
Nope, not 29 - not even close. ;-) I'll be 43 this September and I'm proud of it. Of course there are those days when I feel like I'm 80...
I cried for you.
What a great way to help others. It's hard to give up things that remind you of loved ones. I know, I have soooo much of dad and mom's stuff that it sometimes drives me crazy. But lots of people will be helped because of your generosity.
Peace <3
Jay
Happy Birthday, Cookie!!! (Is it actually today?) I'm gonna need to borrow those candles for MY cake a week from today. :)
xoxox
Sorry for your loss. I absolutely love the photo. You have such a gorgeous family.
Paula will always be a part of you Mark. You are correct in needing to move on to the living around you.
Now, look at that cake! Did you share it? lol
Just know we love you
Is this your subtle way of angling for more prezzies?? Seriously though, and I can be serious at times, what an uplifting photo that last one is - it really puts a smile on MY face! Somehow I feel a personal connection with you and your family - such precious faces....yes, and yours is too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes we need to take these sad moments, relive the great memories and have it remind us how important it is to live every day in the "now" moment. For with every sad....we can find good. Hugs and as always you are in my prayers for healing your heart. :-) Love the picture of all of you...you have much to be thankful for :-)
Jill
hugs
Well, of course! Besides, since you're younger than me, you're NOT OLD! ;-)
Honestly Kate, nothing gives me more pleasure than to trash the clutter of someone else. Maybe one day!
m.
Mark, you are just a youngster! And that pic is beautiful! I think it is wonderful that you donated your sister's wheelchair and I am sure it will go to good use. Many hugs, my young, handsome friend.
Thanks again! m.
That was most definitely a10 mile cake. I'll be paying for it!
m.
When I marked it as Free on-line, I was really hoping that someone would come forward that I could meet. Still, I know that the nursing home will make good use of it.
m.
Listen, I know that sounds awful but I hate when folks just pretend to be handicap in order to get free things. You now, like prime parking spaces and such. I think it's probably my #1 pet peeve. m.
Thank you for that Jamie.
I couldn't imagine losing a child. I would be a total basket case.
So yes, I can try to understand what you grandmother must have gone through. Thank you for sharing all that.
mark
I love that quote!
Thank you for that. It means a lot!
mark
I'm very grateful for you and others that can guide me through this. Thank you!
And regarding your other comment, yes, yesterday was my birthday. And I love sharing it with Alice! I've told you before that I love that name. m.
Thanks for that.
But, I would love for some of their bikes to be donated too. You know, one day, I'd love to park at least one car in our two car garage.
m.
It's true, I don't need any of that stuff. And that chair took up tons of space that we are desperate for.
So thank you Miss Annie!
m.
What a great cause! I totally need to do the same with my old glasses. My next eye appointment is next week and they take old glasses. Thank you for the idea!
m.
There wasn't any room in that photo for Fred. ha!
And yes, my sister was "awesome" and cool. You would have totally loved her.
m.
Roger, thanks for all that but I just gave it to the nursing home last week. And I didn't even think about the JCC. They are just down the street from and my neighbor is a member.
Thanks though!
m.
Yes, the Living need you. And look at them, gorgeous!
Thank you for that "blessing"
mark
Yes, you may be younger than me but how'd you get so wise?
Thanks Brandon!
mark
So true!
m.
1968 rules!
Did you also graduate in 86 or in 87?
m.
Yep, I guess it's our job to remember.
Thanks Girl!
m.
Thank Maureen,
I appreciate you visiting me.
mark
Thanks for ending that with a laugh!
m.
The pain of your loss will never go away, but will hopefully get easier for you! Great pic of you and the kids.... Those twins look older than 4 though!!!! Hope you had a Great Birthday!!!!
Your people are beautiful.
And you don't look too bad, either.
For an old guy.
xo
You did the right thing, Mark. That chair went home where it belonged. It is hard not to dwell on those that have passed over, isn't it? It makes us think of how temporal all this really is...but, you are right, life is for the living and breathing...and tears best left for night when we are alone. Blessings, buddy...You're looking pretty handsome there with those sweet little faces around you- xo Diana
You are in my thoughts often! Hugs to you and the family.
You're like good cognac or stinky cheese, time just makes you better. Here's to lots of living.
Great perspective Mark, but not an easy one to come to I'm sure. Blessings and peace to you and yours - Hugs!
I haven't read the comments, so I must ask: does this mean that you've recently had a birthday? If so, congratulations! I'll bet your sister would be happy with your decision about the chair.
Good for you. I would disagree with the word closure though...you aren't closing anything - she's still with you, the good memories, the sadness of her loss, but these little things you do to "move on" are just good things so you can live your life without being in a perpetual state of sadness. I think it takes about a year to get to the point where you don't feel bad about doing those things. I'm glad that was a load off. Hang in there!
Thank you for donating the chair. These things are so hard to do but make such a difference!
I'm happy that you donated it....I really would hate to see some sad person dragging their a** down your driveway for it.
I LOVE this photo...a total keeper.
Happy belated my friend.
xoxo
Good for you for donating that chair. I'm sure you made a difference for someone else!
Your post reminds me of my sister -- when my dad passed and my mom was finally ready to let some things go from her house, my sister would not let her sell or give them away -- she took almost everything. Clothes, furniture, etc... I still don't think she's really pust closure on my father's death. I'm happy that you found a perfect home for your sister's wheelchair. :)
Happy 44! I hope this year brings you peace.
Happy wonderful amazing 44th year! I'm wishing you peace of mind in all your legal issues. But also: grace, happiness, fun times, non fattening yet yummy food, lots of one on one time with your husband, obedient children. If all of this happens, call me Glenda!
Right back at you old Friend!
Where are you this week?
m.
Yeah, if you weren't close to her and the blanket meant nothing, than yes, I could see getting rid of it.
And sorry for bragging about how cute we are. ha!
m.
Thank you for that, Mitchell.
I know you understand.
mark
Let's get together soon, kay?
m.
And it's perfect for this situation. Thanks for reminding me.
mark
I'd rather get laughs. You know me!
m.
Thanks Girl!
It was April 30th.
So you're a Taurus too, eh? Stubborn much?
m.
Jim, I barely got a nibble of that cake. I got four greedy mouths to feed before I get anything. Thanks!
m.
I do!
m.
Yes, I'll send you my list of presents in a separate email. Time to break open that piggy bank!
You feel connected to us, huh? Just wait until you and Michael start having babies. They'll probably look just like mine!
m.
Yes, I really do have a lot to be grateful for. Don't worry, I never forget that.
Thanks!
m.
Yes, it was a great birthday besides all the cleaning and dishes and laundry that I still had to do. But I'm not bitching! Okay, maybe a little bit!
m.
I should tell people that I'm "54" and then everyone would say that I look good.
Maybe next year!
Thanks Pamela.
m.
Thanks Nana!
I usually avoid having my photo taken with much younger people but for my kids, I'll do anything. I think the candlelight helped!
Take care.
m.
It's good to hear from you again.
Hope all is well!
m.
Geez, you can smell me from there?
Thanks Paul!
m.
That's very kind of you.
And thank you for visiting me.
See you soon!
Your Friend, m.
p.s. Love your email address: Dream Weaver. m.
Yes, I am 44 as of Monday. But you won't dump me now that I'm old, will ya? And thanks, Walt, for the kind words about my Sister.
m.
I agree with your disagreement. Look at you, all wise and all!
Thanks Girl!
m.
No, seriously, I only wanted people who actually "needed" it and not someone looking to get something for free and then sell it. Sometimes I just hate people.
m.
From your lips to God's ears!
Thanks Beth.
m.
I always knew you were a good witch!
Thanks Girls!
m.
For anyone who has experienced this kind of loss, we feel it internally, but cannot express those feelings in a comment. Thanks for sharing.
your friend,
W
By the way I guess I missed that it was your birthday! 44 is the new 30!! Happy Day! hugs, Linda
Mark I am so glad you are moving on and it will so help with the healing. Im thinking maybe I should do the same Happy 44 my friend!
***I suppose that there will always be a general sadness about me. But I'm so tired of thinking about the Dead**
It's okay to be sad, honey. I shall be my entire life after my sister's death (murder)
Keep writing.
I'm new here..so I must read some of your other posts. xx
You have to frame that last picture!!! EVERYONE is looking at the camera! It is a true miracle ;)
I'm sorry you're sad.
xo
Damn, you have a good-looking family. Seriously. And happy belated birthday! I've been terrible at keeping up with blogs lately. Do know that I am still praying for you. I know it's hard to lose someone whom you were so close to, and I hope it gets easier with time. Hugs.
I know that it's probably wrong of me, but I laughed so hard at, "If I didn't see someone dragging their ass down my driveway, they weren't getting it", I spit out my tea.
Serious note: I'm very proud of you for being able to move the chair out of your house, I know it's hard. I was going through some of my books yesterday and there's a paperback that my dad wrote in before he gave it to me, and I just know, because it has his handwriting on the first page, I'll be holding on to that book forever! x
It must be so hard, but I am glad you can start looking ahead. Good idea about donating it to her home. YOur kids are adorable. Great photo!
Mark, your posts and photos are always poignant. No exception here. Happy belated birthday. A loss as you have had is heavy. How wondeful you could lighten it by giving the chair to someone who will really appreciate it. And thr kids look great! Louise
Better to have it used and making someone who needs it happy, than to sit in your garage making you sad.
Now I KNOW that your children's ages must add up to 44 because you're much to bloody lovely to be celebrating that bday!!
I love how you share your memories, and hope you continue to stay in the land of living in your thoughts.....you did a good thing.
xoxoxox
I lost my brother 9 years ago just 4 days after his 50th Birthday. I understand how you feel. Leslie
That is the best story I've read in a long time. It's hard to let go of the strangest things sometimes. Yet, when you do, it makes a world of difference. Not just for you, but the people on the receiving end of your generosity. Your sister will always live on in your heart. And now, she can still help someone else that was in need.
Oh Mark... It is a process and time.. (the other four letter word, xo) And on another note, my son is sooo sad... He would have gotten down and dirty and bloody to drag his behind up the drive way for that beautiful chair. He loves them. Don't your kids? I think you did the right thing in giving it a good useful home, but occasionally, think you ought to get it and race it down a hill. Might make a great pic!
I'm just now responding to comments from this past week.
Yes, I hope you are able to move on as well. Hopefully we all get to a better place some day.
Take care Friend.
m.
Welcome.
So sorry to hear about the sad ending to your Sister's life.
Whether it was a long time coming like with my Sister or ended brutally and quickly like yours, it's never easy.
Take care of yourself.
mark
Jen, that is so funny.
Yes, everyone is looking at the camera. I need to ask Fred what he trick is.
Thanks!
m.
Finally responding to comments:
Nope, that is perfectly fine that you laughed at my off-color remarks. In fact, if you didn't I'd be pissed.
The thought behind that is that when I used to take my Sister out shopping and things like that, I would see these perfectly healthy people parking in handicap spaces and then running into the stores. And here I was with my Sister and her huge wheelchair trying to find parking somewhere in the parking lot. It really pissed me off!
Regarding your Dad's book, I'd hold on to that forever too!
Take care.
m.
Louise, it's very early Sunday morning and I'm just finding time to respond to everyone.
Thank you for stopping in and with such kind things to say. I'm glad that you are enjoying the photos and over the top happy that you like my posts. What a nice compliment. You made this blogger happy!
m.
Amen!
Thanks Shammy!
m.
It's true, I lied. I'm actually only 34. Which would mean that I've been with Fred since I was 11.
It was an arranged marriage. ha!
m.
Yes, you do understand.
And I'm sorry that you are in this "Club" with me.
But I do thank you for sharing that.
Take care.
mark
Stew, thank you for stopping in and with such a lovely thing to say. Yes, I suppose that it really is my Sister who is helping someone else. You just gave me goosebumps thinking about it that way.
Thanks for opening my eyes.
And thanks again for stopping in. Do you blog?
Your New Friend, m.
Ha! Patti, that is too funny! And yes, my kids do love wheelchairs. When we would visit my Sister, they would race in the hallways on wheelchairs. Well, until Mgmt changed and they got yelled at. Oh well! Thanks again for giving me a good laugh.
m.
when we lose someone we love I think it's impossible to stop thinking about them.
In that picture you and Claire have the exact same expression!
Wow, I am so sure your sister is so proud of you for donating her chair! Great great gift. Wonderful.
Mark, I'm so glad your sister's chair found a home. Grief is difficult, and, well, you can't always be happy when shitty things go on. xoxo And Happy Birthday! It sure looked like a good one.
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